You've probably heard the old saying "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence."
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Perhaps you feel like it's true. You look at other people's lives, and you envy them. They seem to be doing so much better than you. They've got a great job. Lots of money. A happy home life. They seem to have it all. And you can't help wishing that you did, too.
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But none of us ever really know what it's like to live someone else's life. No-one's life is perfectâwhatever it looks like from the outside.
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Plus, it's a safe bet that some of your friends are looking at your life and thinking very similar things. Whatever state your life is in, you've got a lot of good things. You just need to recognize them again.
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I. Enjoy What You Have
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One of the best ways to love your current life is to write a list of things you're grateful for. It doesn't matter if they seem small or insignificant: little everyday moments of happiness count. You might think of:
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1. People who you're grateful forâyour family, friends, housemates, co-workers...
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2. Treats which you enjoyâthe smell of fresh coffee, the taste of dark chocolate, a long bath after a hard day...
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3. Things which make your day easierâthe dishwasher, online grocery shopping, fast internet access at work...
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4. Anything special which you've grown accustomed toâyour wedding ring, your smartphone, a favorite coat...
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II. Focus on the Good Points
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When we're thinking about future goals and ambitions, it's easy to end up in quite a negative mood about the present. Perhaps you start thinking through all the things you want to change in your life: losing weight, getting fit, quitting smoking, switching jobs...
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As well as thinking of what you might want to change, look at the areas of your life which are currently good. Maybe:
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1. You get on well with your colleagues at work, and you've got a good relationship with your boss
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2. You've got some real strengthsâlike being able to establish a quick connection with clients, and being organised
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3. Your house is set up pretty much how you want itâthere might not be loads of space, but it feels like home
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...and so on. How could you make more of these good things? Perhaps you could spend more time on your hobbies, or concentrate on your particular strengths at work.
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