第1个回答 2008-11-10
奔四女人哭诉：我真的是遇到征婚骗子了吗？
我和雷的“相识”是源于他的一段征婚广告。更是源与儿子的请求。L（儿子经常回跟我说：”妈妈：你能不能给我找一个不喝酒不打人骂人的爸爸”！）周日的一大早，我按照他留下的电话1304935XXXX给他发个短信。短信中特别还将自己的个人博客地址写上请对方看了以后有意在回拨电话或短信给我。很快就接到了雷的回拨电话。一开口就觉得是那样的亲切，因为他也是东北大连人。所以聊起来很顺畅，闲聊了一些个人的喜好和关于自己的基本情况。从电话中得知他妻子过世多年，现有一个女儿已经上大学。还当过兵。喜欢的运动是打网球和高尔夫，我也说了我的喜好：打羽毛球。喜欢收拾家！不善于理财，不太会做饭。特别的告诉他：自己也说不清的少女时代心中曾想嫁的2种男人：当过兵的或进过监狱的……后来我鬼使神差的给他留下了现在居住地的宅电。再后来我们就每天通过电话（大多数是雷主动在中午和晚上打给我）。使彼此之间有了点滴的了解。雷很喜欢我的儿子每次都要跟我儿子说一会话。为了不让儿子有想法，我还给了儿子一个合理的解释：告诉他这个叔叔是唱京戏的，他每天打电话来就是想听一下你的声音。。。。。。。
为了让雷能对我和我孩子有一个大概的了解，我为雷建了一个信箱：在电话中我教雷并与雷同步操作，雷从信箱从看到了我们母子的最新照片很高兴。从他快乐的声音中判断出他对我们母子的长相也很满意。而我虽然没有见过雷的面，只是听他自己的自我介绍和声音中判断他：是一个可以依靠的人。
爱情联线时，雷告诉我周六要回香港看望自己的父母亲，特意给了我他香港父母亲的宅电并希望我能在他在时候跟老人家通个话。有一天雷突然在电话中让儿子喊他爸爸。儿子很听话的就喊了一声：“爸爸”。。。。。。终于有一天雷跟我说他要到上海去出差，计划从上海转到天津来与我们母子相会，终于可以见到他本人了，高兴的我几乎一夜都没有睡觉。连夜将自己的出租屋又重新打扫了一变。我想我们彼此都很用心的进行着相会前的各种准备工作，雷还在电话中告诉我给我还特意到南京路上给我和孩子买了礼物。告诉我他第二天的大概航班是明早10：OO左右让我等他的电话后去机场接他。第二天的一大早我早早的将孩子送到了幼儿园，（看官们别误会尽管我们在生理上到了一个常人都知道的30如狼40如虎的年龄，但我想我和雷的此次的相会意义不在于行男女之事）特意给孩子们换上了新衣服并告诉他雷叔叔要来天津看他，然后为雷选择离家最近的酒店2家酒店。我第一次到美容店做了美容。换上了自己认为最喜欢的衣裙，整个上午都在不知不觉的忙碌中度过。后来发现自己的手机一直没有响。打开手机屏幕显示是”请查SIM卡”卡。我一下就傻眼了，急忙去打公用电话关机中，原以为说好雷会打电话给我可一直没有打给我，转念一想是不是雷要给我一个惊喜呢？
在焦急的等待中我拨通了他的手机，他接电话时的声音很低。说他已经回深圳了！？并问我是不是每次接待客户都这样？！我一下就懵了，你怎么回去了？！为什么这样说我。。。。。。我的脑子一片空白。挂掉电话第一个反映是我要到深圳去找他，不凭别的就凭他说那话！回到家，忙上网查看一下到深圳最后航班定坐情况，打通一家航空售票处的电话，胡乱的塞了几件衣物，打车到孩子的幼儿园跟老师说家里老人病了要带他回老家。就这样我带着孩子努力的追赶着想搭乘上到深圳的最后的一班航班。。。。。（路上我连续的给雷发了信息）可是我们不得不返回了家。
这样的折腾和精神刺激使我的身体也发生了突变，让我狼狈不堪的是我的“月经”又提前来了。回到家双脚象灌了铅沉重无比！糊乱的给孩子弄点吃的，让孩子自己去玩了。（平日里我从幼儿园接他回来后就是以他为中心和他一起做关于他的事）晚上终于有等到了雷打过来的电话，我委屈的心情一下子得到了宣泄。我哭了。孩子看到我哭就接过电话说：你是个大灰狼。不肯在接听雷的电话。经过了双方电话的沟通，我们有和好如初了！从那以后的爱情联线雷开始大胆的在电话的那头亲吻我，而我从电话中接过他的吻感到很幸福，很满足。。。。。。我希望将我买给他的礼物（原本是来津时送给他的）给他寄过去，于是雷给了我他家的地址。雷想让我给他买几条中南海M8的香烟并希望给他一并邮寄过去。还说让我给他银行卡号说将钱汇给我。要知道，恋爱中的男女总是希望能投其所好！说实话我真的从来没有给任何男人（包括我的父亲）购买过香烟。我先去问了几家通过问讯，比较烟的价格和保真伪的承诺后又跑去邮局问讯过香烟是否可以快递。2项落实好后我用了2天时间分别将香烟寄出。。。。。。
在与雷的爱情连线中我从来没有将自己的经济状况跟雷说过以免引起不必要的误会。离婚。我义无反顾的和孩子从一个原来衣食无忧愁有保姆的中产家庭中走出，经过了半年的时间努力，我和孩子已经渐渐的习惯了现在的生活。。住在只有一张床铺，没有电视，没有写字台的出租屋内（我们拒绝家人的援助）我们母子生活的一样很快乐！特别是6岁的儿子在这里的业余爱好得到了很大的发挥。他的快板书和架子鼓学的已经有个很大的起色。雷！特别是你的”出现”使我和孩子在短暂爱情联线中的生活更充满着阳光，快乐与希望！然而现在你却连一个回话和理由都没有给我就消失了，没有了你的来电，我们母子的生活又恢复了往日的平静。只是孩子会不时的会提到你。问我雷叔叔怎么也不给我们打电话了，我只能说可能他最近很忙吧等过一段时间你学快板好妈妈奖励去找他。。。。。。。各位看官请不要吝啬，能否给苦恼中的我提个建议！是将他就此忘掉！？还是到深圳去找他呢？！或许您的一句箴言惊醒梦中人。。。。。。我真的是遇到了征婚骗子了吗？
翻译：
Bensi woman in tears: I really faced liar marriage it?
Ray and I "met" as a result of his marriage for some ads. Is the source of his son's request. L (son back often said to me: "Mom: Can you find me a drink never hit the father curse!") In the early morning of Sunday, I left him in accordance with the phone to him 1304935XXXX Made a short message. SMS in particular, will also address their own personal blog, please write after seeing the other side intends to call-back phone or text message to me. Soon received a telephone call-back of the mine. I began to feel so warm, because he is of Dalian City in Northeast China. So it is smoothly chat, chat with a number of personal preferences and basic information on their own. From the phone that his wife died many years and has a daughter has to go to college. When the soldiers also have been. Favorite sport is tennis and golf, and I said to my liking: to play badminton. Like clean up the house! Not good at money management, cooking would less. Special to tell him: himself a hard nut to crack in the hearts of young girls have been times Xiangjia of 2 men: When the soldiers had been or into the prison ... ... then I left a curious coincidence of the present place of residence Zhaidian. Then we have the phone every day (mostly active in the mine at noon and at night I call). With the bit between each other so that understanding. Ray loved my son with me every time that the son of a conversation. In order to let his son have thought, I returned to the son of a reasonable explanation: He told the uncle is a Peking opera singing, and he called every day to want to hear is your voice. . . . . . .
In order to be able to mine for me and my children to have a general understanding, I built a mine-mail: I teach over the phone with Ray Ray and synchronous operation, from mine-mail from the mother and son to see our latest photos very happy. He's happy voices from the judge in his mother's appearance, we are very satisfied. Although I have not seen Ray's face, just listening to his own self-presentation and the judge in his voice: a person who can rely on.
Love on-line, mine told me Saturday to return to Hong Kong to visit his parents, he gave me a special Hong Kong Zhaidian parents and I hope that in his time with the elderly, then a pass. One day all of a sudden mine on the phone to let his son call him dad. Very obedient son of a Jiuhan say: "Dad." . . . . . One day mine told me that he wanted to travel to Shanghai, from Shanghai to Tianjin to meet with the mother and son, we finally see him, I am pleased that almost did not sleep all night. The night of his re-rented units and a clean change. I think we are each other's intentions to carry out a pre-meet preparations, the phone still mine told me that I made a special way to Nanjing to the children and I bought a gift. The next day he told me about the flight tomorrow morning is 10: OO about me, and so his telephone access to the airport after him. Early in the morning early the next day I will send their children to the kindergarten, (Kanguan misunderstanding Although we do not have the physical to a people know that the 30 wolves as the age of 40 as Tiger, but I think I of the mine and the Meet significance lies not in line Nannvzhishi) specifically to children put on new clothes and told him Uncle Ray to Tianjin to look at him, and then choose to mine the nearest hotel Hotel 2. The first time I have to do a beauty shop beauty. That put their own favorite dress, all morning in the busy unwittingly spent. Later, they found that their phone has not rung. Open the phone screen is the "SIM card check" card. I click on the Sha Yan, rushed off to play a public phone, thought that the mine would be a good call, I can never call me, I would like thoughts are not mine to give me a pleasant surprise this?
In the anxious wait for me in his phone call that he answer the phone when the voice is very low. He said that Shenzhen has been back! ? And I do not always ask customers to receive this? ! I would like to rip, how do you go back to it? ! Why do I say so. . . . . . My mind was blank. Hang phone is a reflection of the first I have to go to Shenzhen to look for him, not with other, he said that words alone! Home, busy to check the Internet to Shenzhen last flight scheduled to take the case, an airline ticket through a telephone, the wild side a few pieces of clothing, car hit the child's kindergarten teacher said with a disease of the elderly at home to take him away. In this way I have to take their children to catch up with the benefit of travel to Shenzhen on the last of a group of flight. . . . . (I am in a row on the road to the mine made a message), but we have to return home.
This disruption and to stimulate the spirit of my body have taken place in the sudden change of mood I was my "period" ahead of time came. Home legs as the lead heavy irrigation great! The chaos plaster a child to eat something, so that their children had to play. (Weekdays, I pick him up from kindergarten came back to him as the center is with him on doing his thing) in the evening until finally there is a mine attack over the phone, I feel aggrieved at once have been let off steam. I burst into tears. I see the children crying on the phone to take over: You are a Dahui Lang. Ray refused to answer the phone. After the telephone communication between the two sides, and we have a good unabated! Since then, the on-line love mine bold start in the telephone Natou kiss me, and I took the phone from his kiss was very happy, very satisfied. . . . . . I hope that I will buy him a gift (the original was sent to Zimbabwe when he's) sent to him in the past, the mine gave me his home address. Ray wanted me to buy him a few M8 Zhongnanhai cigarettes and that he be sent to the past. I said to him the bank card number, said the money will be remitted to me. To know that the love of men and women always want to Get! To be honest I never really did not give any of the men (including my father) had to buy cigarettes. I first asked a number of inquiries through, compared with the price of cigarettes and security commitment to the authenticity of the information and then go to the post office over whether cigarettes can express. 2 after the implementation of the good I have two days to cigarettes will be sent separately. . . . . .
In connection with the love of mine I have never in their economic situation with the mine said that in order to avoid any unnecessary misunderstanding. Divorce. I am duty-bound children and the food and clothing from one of the original without a nanny sad middle class families out, after six months, I have children and gradually accustomed to the present life. . Only living in a bed, no TV, no rented premises at the desk (we refuse to aid family members) that we live in the same mother and son are happy! Especially the 6-year-old son here in the hobby has been a great play. Allegro his books and school Jiazi Gu has been a big improvement. Ray! In particular you, "" I love children in a short line in the lives of more full of sunshine, happiness and hope! But now you have a single back and the reason I do not have to disappear, not your call, the mother of our life and the restoration of calm in the past. The only child from time to time you will be mentioned. Uncle Ray asked me how not to give us a call, I can only say that he may recently have been very busy for some time now, and so you learn good Allegro award to look for his mother. . . . . . . Kanguan Do not you mean, can you give me the suggestion in distress! In this connection, he is to forget! ? Or go to Shenzhen to look for him? ! You may be awakened by the Monitor a Touch. . . . . . I encountered a marriage is not a liar?